While looking for Jay Soper’s third-floor apartment, I hear a voice call out for me to stop.
“Excuse me?” A woman and an older man are walking a few feet behind. “Are you looking for us?”
It’s Jay Soper and his daughter Lisa, and they’re heading back towards Jay’s apartment. We engage in idle chitchat before entering the apartment together. His living room is neat and organized. By the patio entrance, a tall flag with what looks like a United States military emblem flaps in the calm afternoon breeze. Lisa proudly confirms her father’s lifelong service in the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers.
As Jay shares his life’s story, one thing immediately becomes clear—Jay Soper has lived a life of consistency. He married his high school sweetheart, held the same career with the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers all his life, and constantly traveled to beautiful, far-flung places.
Before Jay became a globetrotter, traveling and living in places like Italy and Alaska, he was a small-town boy. Born in Devil’s Lake, North Dakota, Jay grew up in a small town with a population of about 6,000 people.
“I was the youngest of six boys,” Jay says. He points to a framed photograph on the living room wall by the window. “Those are my parents and my brothers. They’re all gone now.”
As he talks of his childhood and upbringing, we reach the high school point of his story. Jay’s eyes light up as he recalls his high school sweetheart, Carole, who would eventually become his wife and mother to their only child, Lisa.
Jay and his wife of 56 years were not only high school sweethearts, their romance continued through college as well. Both attended and graduated from University of North Dakota, where his October 2018 wife studied to be a medical tech and Jay got a master’s degree in civil engineering.
With his wife and daughter, Jay traveled throughout all fifty states, as well as Italy, Germany, and Saudi Arabia, among other places. In their spare time they enjoyed playing golf.
“Our favorite was probably Italy,” Jay says. Lisa points out a few paintings of Italian views. Jay happily remarks that they saw those very views in person. “My wife loved shopping for local jewelry and shoes,” he adds. The pair then show me a custom hand-made candle sitting on the table between us. The handiwork is as intricate as anything I’d ever seen.
Nowadays, Jay enjoys his quiet life at Sterling Court. Lisa lives only a few minutes away in San Bruno, which allows her to visit her father often. By both their accounts, Jay is never bored with the daily routine at Sterling Court. He has made friends with his neighbors and actively participates in many events.
After a lifetime of seeing the world, Jay appreciates the calmness that Sterling Court offers.
One of the best things about the San Francisco Peninsula is the weather. The winters are never too cold, and summers are never scorchers. But of course, there are still some days when we catch a heat wave. While we anticipate the fall season and the weather becomes cooler, seniors need to be aware of the heat. Hundreds of Americans die every year from extreme temperatures, and a high percentage of those fatalities are seniors.
As the body ages, it becomes less able to physically handle the heat, due to various age-related reasons like poorer circulation. Other risk factors include heart disease and dementia. The Autumn leaves fall soon, but in the meantime, here are some tips to help stay safe in the summer heat.
Hydrate, Hydrate, Hydrate
Being hot is not the only reason why heat can be dangerous. Dehydration is an extremely common occurrence in seniors because a person’s sense of thirst becomes less acute as the body ages, regardless of the temperature. This makes it more likely for seniors to skip drinking water despite being dehydrated. So, when in doubt, reach for a trusty glass of water!
Stay Cool, Be Cool
Sterling Court’s beautiful courtyard can be tempting, but when the weather is too hot, there are plenty of things to do inside the building. Enjoy playing cards with your friends and neighbors, attend a lecture, or listen to the beautiful music during Social Hours. You can also stay in your own lovely apartment and turn on the fan to relax with a nice cold glass of water.
When the temperature’s high, make sure to dress in light, breathable garments – you can always grab a sweater or cardigan if you feel a little cold once the temperature drops.
Beat the Heat
Regardless of the situation, it’s always important to stay educated and informed. The real dangers of high temperatures, especially for the elderly, are heat exhaustion and heat stroke. Heat exhaustion and heat stroke are both very serious conditions that can lead to serious injury. Being aware of the symptoms can help you recognize someone who might be suffering from either condition.
Heat exhaustion is typically accompanied by a fever up to 104 degrees Fahrenheit, excessive thirst, confusion, nausea, cool and clammy skin, fainting, muscle aches, and dizziness. If left untreated, heat stroke can quickly develop.
Symptoms of heat stroke include confusion, agitation, lack of sweating, red, hot and dry skin, and coma.
If you notice any of these symptoms on yourself or your fellow neighbors, please call for help right away. Sterling Court has a fully trained staff who are all equipped to care for our resident’s health needs.
Rosh Hashanah signifies the beginning of the New Year 5779. It begins on Sunday, September 9 at sundown. The most common phrase you’ll hear is “L’shana tova tika tevu” which means “May you be inscribed for a good New Year!” This refers to God’s Book of Life and getting one’s name inscribed is the goal of every Jew during this time of judgment. On the first day of Rosh Hashanah, God judges every person’s good and bad deeds performed during the previous year.
Yom Kippur, begins at sundown on Tuesday, September 18. This is a Day of Atonement, and all ablebodied Jewish adults are required to fast for 24 hours. God does not expect anyone to put his or her life in danger in order to fast. Yom Kippur is a day of prayer and self-refl ection.
The first service is the Kol Nidrei and the second service is called the Neila during which the shofar (ram’s horn) is sounded at sundown on the next day September 19, 2019, ending the holiday.
Three picture frames flank either side of Dona Santo’s apartment door, two on the right, one on the left – nothing terribly exciting. At least, not at first glance.
Friendly and soft-spoken, Dona does not describe her life as anything too wild. She was born in San Francisco in 1934 and lived most of her life in the City. As a true San Franciscan, Dona recalls the biggest difference between the modern San Francisco and the city she grew up in is security.
“We never used to lock the door,” Dona says, adding, “I can’t imagine anyone doing that now.”
Like the entry to her home, Dona’s story unravels only upon closer inspection. She was raised in the Richmond District by Scottish parents, graduated from high school, and worked as a secretary at Crocker National Bank and UCSF before she got married, but he r first marriage wasn’t meant to be. It was only after meeting her second husband, one she would keep for 48 years until his passing, did Dona settle comfortably into life. Their lifelong courtship introduced Dona to another lifelong love: horse racing.
Dona’s husband worked as a horse jockey in New York. “There’s a picture of him,” Dona says, pointing to the wall where a black-and-white photograph of a man on a horse racing track hangs. She speaks of their shared love for race tracks, and recalls going to the old Bay Meadows track, a legendary Bay Area racing venue that opened in 1934 and operated continuously until its closing in 2008. “It’s too bad they don’t have one here anymore,” Dona laments.
But Dona didn’t just enjoy her husband’s races from afar – she worked at the tracks as well, holding a long-time position within the group sales department. When the pair retired, their adventures didn’t end either. With racing in the rear-view mirror, they opted for a much more relaxing form of movement: traveling.
Dona and her husband visited such far-flung places as Alaska, South America, Paris, Italy, and the Panama Canal, to name a few. They also logged many hours on the open seas. “We did a lot of cruises, too,” she says.
When her husband passed away in 2012, Dona continued to live in their Foster City home until six months ago, when she moved into Sterling Court. Fortunately, her two children Susan and Matthew, are local to the area.
Dona had always loved knitting and cross-stitching, considering both life-long hobbies. However, due to vision impairment, she hasn’t joined the Sterling Crafters – a club where she would have certainly felt right at home. But Dona still makes the most of her new life. When she’s not attending lectures at Sterling Court, she listens to audio books and socializes with her fellow neighbors.
“There’s always something to do,” Dona says, adding, “and everyone is really nice.”
The three frames that flank either side of Dona’s door have come into focus. The right wall holds two archival documents that mark her parents’ migration from Scotland to San Francisco. The left holds a beautiful cross-stitched cloth with patterns and “The Quilting” spelled out along the bottom. Much like her walls on first impression, Dona’s life may not seem that exhilarating. But with a closer look, anyone can see that it has been filled with art and adventure.
Staying in shape can be a challenge, no matter our age, but keeping active becomes increasingly difficult as we get older. Keeping active helps seniors stave off illnesses such as strokes and cardiac disease and leads to improved motor functions and better quality sleep. While extreme workouts may not be an option for seniors, there are many more moderate ways to keep fit in our later years.
Take a Stroll with Friends
You don’t have to do push-ups to be active. Grab a friend and take a walk around the neighborhood for 30 minutes to an hour. Not only is this a good way to get moving, but it’s also a wonderful time to socialize with your peers, which will do wonders for your mental health.
Here at Sterling Court, you can join the Sterling Walkers as we venture to Coyote Point Park, Anza Lagoon, Ryder Park, San Mateo Central Park, and Leo Ryan Park. Walk with us every Friday at 11 a.m., weather permitting.
Sign Up for an Exercise Class
Signing up for a class is one of the best options for providing the discipline required to maintain a regular exercise routine. Classes allow us to form new relationships or cultivate existing ones. Yoga, dancing, and water aerobics can do wonders for our physical health, but make sure to consult a doctor before introducing any new form of exercise.
Sterling Court offers a variety of fitness classes with instructors specifically trained to help seniors maintain an active lifestyle. Shape up with Sophia on Mondays to help boost your energy and improve strength, stamina, balance, and posture, or try Chair Yoga with April on Wednesdays.
Participate in Sports or Swim
Exercising is more fun when there’s a little competition involved, and there are plenty of competitive sports that seniors can participate in without the risk of injury. A popular choice is golf—a great sport to help you get out in the sun, while also keeping you active. Running puts a lot of strain on your joints, so skip the treadmill and head for the pool instead. Swimming is a fantastic choice for cardio and an excellent way to log some exercise time in your schedule. There are several aquatic centers in the area that the Sterling Court drivers can take you to.
Prefer staying indoors? Another great way to play sports is through the Nintendo Wii. You can play golf, tennis, bowling, and more – all without leaving the house. Sterling Court offers assistance for anyone wishing to play for the first time. Play Wii Sports with your neighbors on Wednesdays at 4 p.m. in the Revere Room.
We can help with apartment availability and scheduling tours, or send an application for residence. Let us know what you are interested in learning more about and how we can help you!