Celebrate Women’s History Month!

March 3, 2020

Ah March! The wonderful month that ushers in springtime, longer days, more sunshine (for all of us up here in the Northern Hemisphere anyway 😉), and … Women’s History! Shining a light on the incredible impact women have made throughout history – Marie Curie, Jane Austen, Rosa Parks, Rosie the Riveter, Maya Angelou, perhaps your mother or grandmother 😊 to name a few – Women’s History Month salutes both notable and “ordinary” women as it’s impossible to explore certain parts of history without remembering the vision of the women driving it. WHM began in 1978 right here in California, up north in Sonoma as National Women’s Week, and eventually morphed into a month-long celebration. We’re being summoned to honor women and to teach young people, especially young girls, about the powerful role women have played in history, inspiring everyone to dream about how they can fulfill their true potential. No matter if you’re a woman or a man, the most important thing we can achieve in life is to be the best person we can and positively influence the world. Here are a few suggestions on how to pay homage to women and the feminine spirit – past, present, and future.

Write a letter to an inspiring woman in your life.
Put pen to paper and express your gratitude to a woman – a personal connection or a public figure – who truly guided you in your life, inspired you to do your best. If possible, send it to her. If not, sit quietly with your words and then store the letter to memorialize your sentiments to all remarkable women.

Empower yourself with the story of a remarkable woman … like the one showing right here in the Revere Room on Thursday March 5 and 12 at 2:45pm: Bombshell: The Hedy Lamarr Story. (Did you know that this top leading lady was also a talented inventor who created a radio system that is now considered the basis of Bluetooth technology?!) Grab a friend and go see a free screening on March 23 at the San Carlos Public Library of Hidden Figures, 7-8:30pm: “Three African American women at NASA serve as the brains behind a stunning achievement that restored the nation’s confidence, turned around the Space Race, and galvanized the world.” Or simply cozy up with a book about a pioneering female figure who inspires.

Celebrate family.
Delve into your personal history, reach out to friends and relatives and have a memory-lane chat with them, embracing a deeper understanding of your family’s roots and evolution, and how certain women in your life have influenced who you are today.

Encourage the young.
Inspiring up-and-coming girls in the world today to grow into strong, independent women tomorrow is just as important as celebrating the incredible women of the past. WHM is the perfect opportunity to invite your daughters, granddaughters – any of the beloved girls in your life – for a visit. Any sort of gathering will do! Swap stories, share wisdom from the elders to the youth … and vice versa! Happy Women’s History Month!

Kris Creates Beauty & Appreciates the Little Things

February 19, 2020

Kristin (Kris) E. Kirk loves creating and surrounding herself with beauty, which makes sense when you hear her past professions – beautician and flower arranger – and when you see her apartment! Her home is surrounded in animal prints, soft lighting, and just a little sparkle.

“I enjoy the moments of life. Every moment I’m here is a present,” says Kris, hinting that there is a lot more to her story.

Her parents, Neil and Janet Daniels, married before her dad left to serve in World War II. He became a B-17 pilot, flying 29 bombing missions over Germany. In the meantime, her mom worked as a “Rosie the Riveter”. On his return, they moved to Burbank, California where Kris was born and then her family moved to Denver. But the mile-high climate didn’t agree with her dad, who was then a United Airlines pilot, so the family headed to Los Altos, which “was just a little village then,” says Kris.

Kris married when she was just 18 and fresh out of high school. The marriage didn’t last – but she did discover a true love. “I went to Beauty College in Palo Alto and I was a natural!” says Kris. She was a hairdresser for 20 years and prided herself on pleasing her clients and listening to what they wanted. She even had her own salon in Palo Alto called House of Hair Styling.

Along the way she met and married her second husband, but their union was short-lived. He left before their son Jeffrey was born. She moved to Walnut Creek when a friend offered a home. “It was the late 1960s and he knew I was in a predicament,” says Kris. She pauses and says, “I’ve lived a real life, not a fairytale.” Her third husband lasted a lot longer and she was able to enjoy raising her child. Jeffrey now lives in Ohio with his wife, daughter, and stepdaughter. Kris is happy that she has been able to set up a college fund for her granddaughter.

Years of salon chemicals took their toll on Kris’s hands and she needed to change professions. Luckily, she discovered flower arranging and worked for Ah Sam, creating hundreds of arrangements. But life had another curveball in store.

After years of looking after others but not herself and catching fast-food meals on the run, Kris had a major stroke at just 59 years old. Her right arm was useless, and she had to relearn almost everything, but she laughs saying, “The physical therapist forced me to recover. She said, ‘You can swear all you want to!’ but she made me do the exercises. I promised God that I’d never eat another pizza.” That was 14 years ago, and it appears she has kept the promise regaining the use of her right arm and losing 100 pounds in 3 years.

Kris appreciates every day now and takes delight in the little things. She’s also quick to say how much she loves living at Sterling Court. The location makes it easy to walk downtown plus it’s close to her doctors. Kris loves the dining room and says the chef has a French flair and obviously “believes in people being healthy!” She also enjoys working out in the exercise room. Plus, her expert’s eye is impressed by the modern flower arrangements and the landscaping. She likes how people personalize their doors with decorations – hers has a zebra-print mini-wreath. She even compliments the cleaning staff!

To relax, Kris curls up by her window overlooking two sturdy oak trees and either reads a mystery or watches one on PBS. And when she’s feeling inspired, a trip to nearby Michaels craft store helps satisfy her need to create something beautiful.

Home is Where the Heart Is

February 14, 2020

At the end of the day, our home is always there for us – a calm sanctuary where we can truly relax and be ourselves. While you’d be hard-pressed to take your living space out to a fancy dinner this Valentine’s Day 🙂, you could instead profess your love for that awesome abode of yours by paying homage (home-age!) to your home sweet home. Expressing your appreciation is sure to make your living space a brighter, happier, healthier place. And isn’t this also the ultimate gift and way to show yourself love? Here are some ideas to demonstrate self-love and home gratitude. After all – home is where the heart is!

The Beauty of a Bouquet.

Flowers – the go-to gift that just doesn’t quit! That pop of color and good energy in your home will make you smile every time you walk in. Lighten your space and soften your mood with the beauty and fragrance of fresh flowers.

Change Up the Décor.

This can be a simple touch, like purchasing some new couch pillow covers – or perhaps attending Jeri’s creative art class on Mondays or Kay’s on Thursdays and making your own! And if sewing isn’t your thing, the process of crafting a piece of art will bring that extra special personal touch to your home. Either way, a little something new will inspire fresh vibes.

Freshen Up.

Spending time cleaning your place is a great way to express love. Show some tender loving care to a section that you’ve overlooked. Tidy up the drawer next to your bed or polish up your living room mirror – shine a little light on a part of your abode that could use some love and enjoy the sparkle!

Nature Soothes the Soul.

Introduce tranquility with all-things Mother Earth: potted plants, shells, rocks, wood – or perhaps the lovely sounds of a water fountain. Most any of the elements of nature will inspire joy and calm in your living space.

Dress It Up.

A unique lamp, a new piece of art, a fun refrigerator magnet – fresh additions, small or big, bring your own personal style and signature to your home. Join us on one of our shopping trips Mondays and Wednesdays and see what catches your eye! Items that make you happy reflect those good feelings back at you. [smiley face emoji]

Fill It with Friends and Family.

Make new memories in your home by inviting over those closest to you, perhaps sipping tea, enjoying each other’s company, sharing stories, catching up. The wonderful energy that only comes with being with dear ones will infuse your space with love.

Slow Down … Embrace Your Space.

Lastly, but perhaps most importantly, sit down and soak it all in. There’s great healing beauty in sitting still with ourselves in our own space and being grateful, truly embracing the moment, and feeling the love. Happy Valentine’s Day!

Erna’s Adventures in Moving

January 14, 2020

Erna Brown started life in Paso Robles, California, a place known for miles of almond trees and county fairs. “It was a small town then and a wonderful place to grow up,” says Erna. She remembers farmland everywhere, perfect for hiking and biking.

Her life changed in 1954 when she was working as a dental assistant and started talking with one of the patients, Jim Brown. He was from out of town, an oil geologist working for Mobil Oil, and he asked her to a square dance. “We sort of clicked and he was funny,” says Erna. After dating 6 months, Jim asked her to marry him but warned that with his profession, they would move a lot. Luckily, Erna was ready for adventure. After all, adventure is in Erna’s blood.

Her family background is Russian Mennonite, farmers who originated in Germany but migrated to Russia at the invitation of Catherine the Great. Over the generations the farmland was shrinking, and Erna’s father Otto decided his future was in America, first in Kansas and then Paso Robles. Erna’s mother Marie was 20 years Otto’s junior and his friend’s daughter. Together they had Erna and her brother Otto, who both spoke German until they started school.

Jim kept his promise about being on the move. Over the years, they lived in Colorado, Mississippi, New Mexico, and Nevada, often moving within the state or back to California a few times in between. Along the way they had two daughters ­­– Susan, who is now a photographer and Catherine, a graphic designer.

As the girls got older, Erna and Jim decided to settle down. They moved back to California and Jim worked for the Metropolitan Water District checking on digs and going down tunnels, which worried Erna. She smiles as she describes Jim as a very caring person who did not like office work. For travel, they visited numerous National Parks. That love of the outdoors transferred to their children and grandchildren, including her granddaughter who works for Lassen National Park, and her grandson who works for a non-profit in water quality for Golden Gate National Park.

In 1989, Erna and Jim retired to Lompoc, California and enjoyed hiking and being active in their church. Over the years, Erna volunteered with several charities, including the Alpha Club and P.E.O. After Jim passed away in 2009, Erna moved to be close to her daughter in San Mateo. Later, after a health scare, both daughters convinced her to move to senior housing.

Erna first moved to a different care facility but almost immediately discovered problems. “I didn’t like the people. There was no privacy. People would just come into your room,” says Erna. “I didn’t know how to tell my daughter and her husband, who had gone to a lot of trouble to move me.”

Luckily, her daughter had driven by Sterling Court and told Erna about it. They came for a visit and Erna liked it. “The people are really friendly.” Erna also enjoys the Sterling Court trips and has visited the Charles M. Schulz Museum in Santa Rosa and the Cliff House in San Francisco.

When Erna wants to relax, she does crossword puzzles and reads mystery novels in her apartment, which feels especially bright, cozy, and welcoming. And this is no surprise. All those moves across the country gave her lots of practice creating lovely places to call home.

20 Quotes for 2020

January 9, 2020

Tiding (noun): a piece of news.

– Merriam-Webster Dictionary

Let’s face it, when it comes to the barrage of unpredictable news – aka tidings – we’ve endured in 2019, these past 12 months could be called “The Trampoline of 2019”! So in this article let’s ring in the New Year with calm, hope, and a positive outlook. What better way to do that than to look to those who’ve said it best throughout history, to the leaders, visionaries, and artists who have expressed their hearts in the best of times, in the worst of times (to tip a not-so-elegant hat to one of literature’s best, Charles Dickens, in A Tale of Two Cities 😉). Here are 20 quotes for 2020 from a variety of powerful voices – past and present – we hope will spread some joy and inspiration upon us all. Happy New Year and … “Good-Tidings-a-Plenty in 2020!”

  1. “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
    —Eleanor Roosevelt
  2. “Imagine all the people living life in peace. You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us, and the world will be as one.”
    —John Lennon
  3. “Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.”
    —Ralph Waldo Emerson
  4. “Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don’t give up.” 
    —Anne Lamott
  5. Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.” 
    —Albert Einstein
  6. “Keep your face always toward the sunshine—and shadows will fall behind you.”
    —Walt Whitman
  7. “Do what you can with all you have, wherever you are.” 
    —Theodore Roosevelt
  8. “When I was young, my ambition was to be one of the people who made a difference in this world. My hope is to leave the world a little better for having been there.”
    —Jim Henson
  9. “I dwell in possibility.”
    —Emily Dickinson
  10. “If we surrendered to earth’s intelligence, we could rise up rooted like trees.”
    —Rainer Maria Rilke
  11. “Light tomorrow with today.”
    —Elizabeth Barrett Browning
  12. “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.”
    Dr. Seuss
  13. “Life isn’t a matter of milestones, but of moments.”
    —Rose Kennedy
  14. “Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.”
    —Nathaniel Hawthorne
  15. “Each day provides its own gifts.”
    Marcus Aurelius
  16. “I hope that people will finally come to realize that there is only one ‘race’ – the human race – and that we are all members of it.”
    —Margaret Atwood
  17. “I find hope in the darkest of days and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe.”
    —Dalai Lama
  18. “Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”
    Maya Angelou
  19. “Friends are those rare people who ask how we are, and then wait to hear the answer.”
    —Ed Cunningham
  20. “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”
    —Mahatma Gandhi

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